In the last few months, I’ve experienced a series of disappointments. The context of these disappointments is not important but how I have felt about it emotionally and the impact on my confidence has given me pause.There seems to be times when it is hard to move forward from a disappointment. Maybe I had too much at stake in the outcome. Maybe I felt I should have had more ability to influence the result. In any case, I’ve felt a bit beat up in the process.
When I have had disappointments, I have to remember a couple of key points.
The first point is that if I was not living my life to the fullest and trying new things, I may not have the opportunity to be disappointed. I would also not have the opportunity to be pleasantly surprised or feel a sense of achievement. It is a two sided coin when you toss it up, so you really can’t have one without the other.
The second point is that I am reminded that when I suffer a set back or a disappointment, I need to disconnect with the outcome. If I do my best work before I send it out into the world, I need to let go. I can not control how others will view or see my work. It doesn’t mean I should stop doing the work even if one or two projects fail to launch as I expect.
The final point I’ll make is that if I have faith in the concept that everything happens for a reason, then I need to decide if this disappointment is a signal that I have life lesson to learn. Alternatively, maybe I need to accept that something much better is waiting in the future. I can’t predict the future so a bit of acceptance (or resignation perhaps) is needed in order to move onto the next project.
Although disappointment is hard to swallow, it does mean that I am not content with the status quo. I’m going to keep working hard to succeed knowing that it may mean more disappointment. Is that what it means to be resilient?
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